Mother’s Day…um…why does everyone assume I’m a mother? I received a few “Happy Mother’s Day” texts and comments from random people. Does a person naturally assume since I’m in my 30s or have ginormous boobies that I’m somehow a mother? Or was it said to mock me or to spring my ovaries into action? Was it an innocent mistake(s)?
This following incident was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I went to the store in my mother’s neighborhood. There was a man in his late 50s sitting out front. He wished me a belated Happy Mother’s Day. I said that I wasn’t a mother. It perturbed me because he knew for a fact that I didn’t have kids. He murmured, “I can change that.” I pretended that I didn’t hear him as I entered the store.
As I left the store, he called out to me and said, “I got someone for you. He can make you a mother.” My jaw dropped. WTF?! Did this dude just pimped me out? The guy, maybe in his 30s, was seriously going along with it. All I could do was laugh. I was so embarrassed. I sped away from the store.
But I do wonder if I’ll ever become a mother. I’m 30. In 10 years, I’ll be 40. Although I am grateful for not having kids during the unstable relationships I’ve been in, I sometimes wonder what it would be like. I know several single mothers. Although it’s hard raising kids at times, they say they wouldn’t change it for the world. Then there are people who wouldn’t dare bring a child into the world without being in a committed relationship. What situation would be ideal for me? The very idea of being a mother (someday) scares me but also over joys me.
But until my financial situation improves (and several other things), I’ll just love on my niece and nephew until then.